Wedding invitations can be a sensitive thing. In Malaysia, people who get them may complain a little about having to give angpows. However, people who do not receive them may end up feeling slighted and offended that you did not think of them enough to invite them to the biggest party of your life! There is never any two ways about it!
So, who should you invite and who can you get away without inviting? Here are some tips for organising your preliminary wedding guest list.
Wedding Invitations To Both Families
Unless there are some serious family issues, both sets of immediate families should be invited to your wedding. If one set of parents are divorced or separated, it is the responsibility of the child of those parents to assess the situation and practise their discretion in extending the wedding invitation. Extended relatives are also usually invited unless there are serious family feuds with families not on speaking terms.
Tip: Having an aged uncle who tells embarrassing jokes is not really a valid excuse to avoid inviting your relatives!
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Wedding Invitations To Friends
Often, weddings are all about friends and families and usually close friends of both the bride and groom are invited, especially if they have been assisting with the wedding preparations. If, for some reason, some friends of either the groom or bride cannot get along with the other bridal couple, the couple should discuss how best to deal with the situation with a mature and open mind.
Tip: While friends are important, they should not be more important than the man or woman you are going to marry and spend your life with. Do not place your friends above your fiancé or fiancée.
Wedding Invitations To Parents’ Friends and Business Associates
For the parents, inviting their friends to share the wedding joy is also a way of announcing that their son or daughter is now married. However, for the couple, it can be a nightmare having a wedding where they do not know half the guests! If finances are tight, discuss with both sets of parents on how best to arrange the guest list. If the couple are paying for the wedding themselves, perhaps request for only the parents’ close friends to be invited. However, if the parents are paying for the wedding, they usually have the right to invite their friends and associates.
Tip: If you can, consider having two separate functions. A smaller and more intimate wedding party for just your friends and a grand huge one for your parents’ friends!
Wedding Invitations To Colleagues
It can be hard deciding which colleagues to invite especially if you work in a large department or office. As a rule of thumb, if you do not usually speak to some colleagues, you should not feel obliged to invite them simply because you are within the same department.
Tip: It is wise to always invite your boss as a mark of respect!
Photos courtesy of The Knot.
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